Compliments

Yesterday I actually took some time and styled my hair with the umpteen products and tools to make a big sexy curly do. I also got a mani with an interesting grayish color the day before. Two women, in less than 10 minutes, complimented me on my hair and nails.  I heartily thanked them both. Then later when I was rethinking over my day, I thought how extraordinary it was that two complete strangers went out of their way to let me know they liked my style. This thought went down the cosmic wormhole of truth.

Why does society think it is okay for a woman to say "Wow your hair looks great!" to another woman and it is normal and not weird at all, but men doing the same is thought to be somehow awkward? We gals throw compliments on hair, clothes, weight, communication skills, brains, etc  (Well, some of us do....and if you're not, you are really missing out on some good karma.) So why is it odd for a guy to tell another guy that his suit is awesome or his new haircut looks good? Better still, how do we change male compliments from the rare oddity to normal?

I absolutely love paying compliments to people, but especially women who seem like they could really use a few kind words right about then. I tell people they are great at their jobs.  I thank people and tell them how much I appreciate their courteous manners and hard work. I tell someone when a color looks great on them.  I praise people for being considerate and professional. You have a great smile! Your baby is beautiful, Mom. Gorgeous jewelry! This is normal for me. I do it because I know how much better my day is whenever somebody acknowledges me, even in some insignificant way. I like to give that positive vibe to others and the reward is I feel better twofold.

When someone compliments us, why are we conditioned to shrug it off? Is it a southern thing? Are we supposed to always seem humble?  For years that was my way of handling compliments. I acted embarrassed when somebody praised me.  No more.  I show my delight now. "AWWW THANK YOU!"  This is normal. This is healthy. Thank someone and let them know you are sincerely moved by their kindness.  If you are 3 kinds of special at that moment in time, revel in it and accept your well-deserved recognition. Stay humble by not gloating but accept your glory.

I challenge you to perform three random acts of kindness tomorrow. See how kindness and appreciation can really make someone's day.  See how great you feel in return.  If you feel like sharing your efforts I would love to hear from you.