Tale of Two Exes

This weekend brought not one, but two of my ex-husbands into my orbit. The most recent ex is in town for a week and had offered to help me with some chores around the house in exchange for my old cell phone. The first ex and I were together for our granddaughter's first birthday party. So in preparation for this weekend I asked my buddy to bump my hair appointment up a week earlier... because vanity was not going to let me show up with gray roots. I was already scheduled for a facial this week so I was in good shape going in.

First ex walked into party, greeted me and told me my hair looked nice. Score! Later in the day when we were having dinner he told his daughter that the broccoli casserole was good, but it was not as good as the broccoli casserole that his mother made and then he pointed to me and added "or as good as she made." Considering that I used his mother's recipe....I still count that as a win.

Second ex and I had pleasant dinner and I paid him the last installment on our divorce settlement. A huge weight is lifted off my shoulders now. And while I would say that our visit has been pleasant overall, there have definitely been some bumps.....like today.  We were weeding out a section of the side and backyard and we were discussing society. He has always played the "white man is penalized" card, so naturally right after I commented that he was lucky that he was a white man, this went down:

Ex: (extreme sarcasm) Oh yeah?  People act like the white man is responsible for destroying everything.

Me: Well, aren't you? How many women do you know of that are running around the country doing mass shootings? People of color? It's young..white..men...with anger issues.

We gardened in silence for quite some time. Beautiful day.